Monday, August 31, 2009

Getting real and raw...

OK, I am going to start off saying this post is not like my normal post. Most of you know me as being Cheery but it has been brought to my attention that some might not understand the real life of me. You only see what I post on this blog and I felt like I needed to get this off my chest.
Not because what somebody said hurt my feelings but to let you all know out there my opinion on relationships. You might not agree and that's OK but from life experiences this is what I have learned...

Let's start with my one of my favorite quotes it is from the Great Gatsby "Whenever you feel like criticizing any one...just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had." ... remember this people when your about to say something to someone you do not know. Also, don't assume they have had less advantages then you. One thing I can not stand is when people feel the need to educate you on life because of your age. I may be young but this does not mean I have not experienced life. I have seen 18 year olds deal with more in that small of time period then 80 year olds. Yes, older people have seen more and experienced the everyday things that happens as you get older but I am not naive just because I am 23.

Me and guitar hero are not perfect we do have our ups and downs like most relationships. Yes, most of our time is spent with him being gone... but NO just because most of our time is spent long distance it does not mean our relationship is doom for failure. Relationships take work. It's that simple. Most people in today's world are not use to working for anything. Life has become more simpler when you want something. You got a flat tire just whip out your cell and call somone else to fix it, you fail a test no worries there is also extra credit to make up for it. So, when we have to work for something we usually just give up. Me and guitar hero know that it will get hard at times and there will be times where it would be easy to say it's over... but neither of us are willing to give up. WE WON"T GIVE UP! Our love is real. I can say this with confidence because I have had other relationships. I was with a guy for 3 years before I was with guitar hero. I thought I was going to marry that guy of the 3 years but now I know the difference between just wanting to be married and between wanting to share you life with somone you really care about.

I also, don't believe most relationships end just because people don't want to put in the work (so, before you think I am judging why couples don't last don't think that) Lots of couples break up for lots of reasons... as they should. I believe that two people need to be going in the same direction in life for it to work. People are always changing and growing and lots of times people just simply grow apart but one day you will get to a point in your life when you know what you want and you will meet that somebody who wants those same things. Me and guitar hero have both found ourselves on that same road wanting the same things. That's another reason why I am sure we will make it.

I do not just sit around waiting for him to get home. I have my life, I do my own things. He does his things, and has his life. Then we make time for each other. Since he is gone a lot it's important that when he is home we make time for each other... which we always do.

We both have been blessed to come from households where our parents are very much in love. My parents where younger then me and guitar hero when they got married and had already had me and my brother by my age and are coming up on their 25th anniversary this year. My dad is still very romantic buying my mother flowers, and leaving her love notes just because he feels like it. They also still go on dates together as they did my whole life growing up. They made time for each other outside work, and their children. Guitar hero's parents only knew each other 3 MONTHS yes I said 3 MONTHS before getting married and they are coming up on 30 years together.

So, it does not matter your age or how long you have been with someone to determine if you are going to make it as a couple. It does not matter if your time is spent apart because one travels a lot for a job. It matters if you are willing to work together in the relationship, if your willing to be equals in the relationship, and if your life is taking you the same direction and not holding someone behind from doing what they are meant to do in life.

I am sorry if I upset anyone by this post. I just needed to express how I felt. I will not judge you for having your own opinion but just want you to know me and where I come from before you judge me and my relationship with guitar hero.

I promise the next post will go back to being cheery and lovey dovey about me and guitar hero.

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