Monday, August 31, 2009
Not because what somebody said hurt my feelings but to let you all know out there my opinion on relationships. You might not agree and that's OK but from life experiences this is what I have learned...
Let's start with my one of my favorite quotes it is from the Great Gatsby "Whenever you feel like criticizing any one...just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had." ... remember this people when your about to say something to someone you do not know. Also, don't assume they have had less advantages then you. One thing I can not stand is when people feel the need to educate you on life because of your age. I may be young but this does not mean I have not experienced life. I have seen 18 year olds deal with more in that small of time period then 80 year olds. Yes, older people have seen more and experienced the everyday things that happens as you get older but I am not naive just because I am 23.
Me and guitar hero are not perfect we do have our ups and downs like most relationships. Yes, most of our time is spent with him being gone... but NO just because most of our time is spent long distance it does not mean our relationship is doom for failure. Relationships take work. It's that simple. Most people in today's world are not use to working for anything. Life has become more simpler when you want something. You got a flat tire just whip out your cell and call somone else to fix it, you fail a test no worries there is also extra credit to make up for it. So, when we have to work for something we usually just give up. Me and guitar hero know that it will get hard at times and there will be times where it would be easy to say it's over... but neither of us are willing to give up. WE WON"T GIVE UP! Our love is real. I can say this with confidence because I have had other relationships. I was with a guy for 3 years before I was with guitar hero. I thought I was going to marry that guy of the 3 years but now I know the difference between just wanting to be married and between wanting to share you life with somone you really care about.
I also, don't believe most relationships end just because people don't want to put in the work (so, before you think I am judging why couples don't last don't think that) Lots of couples break up for lots of reasons... as they should. I believe that two people need to be going in the same direction in life for it to work. People are always changing and growing and lots of times people just simply grow apart but one day you will get to a point in your life when you know what you want and you will meet that somebody who wants those same things. Me and guitar hero have both found ourselves on that same road wanting the same things. That's another reason why I am sure we will make it.
I do not just sit around waiting for him to get home. I have my life, I do my own things. He does his things, and has his life. Then we make time for each other. Since he is gone a lot it's important that when he is home we make time for each other... which we always do.
We both have been blessed to come from households where our parents are very much in love. My parents where younger then me and guitar hero when they got married and had already had me and my brother by my age and are coming up on their 25th anniversary this year. My dad is still very romantic buying my mother flowers, and leaving her love notes just because he feels like it. They also still go on dates together as they did my whole life growing up. They made time for each other outside work, and their children. Guitar hero's parents only knew each other 3 MONTHS yes I said 3 MONTHS before getting married and they are coming up on 30 years together.
So, it does not matter your age or how long you have been with someone to determine if you are going to make it as a couple. It does not matter if your time is spent apart because one travels a lot for a job. It matters if you are willing to work together in the relationship, if your willing to be equals in the relationship, and if your life is taking you the same direction and not holding someone behind from doing what they are meant to do in life.
I am sorry if I upset anyone by this post. I just needed to express how I felt. I will not judge you for having your own opinion but just want you to know me and where I come from before you judge me and my relationship with guitar hero.
I promise the next post will go back to being cheery and lovey dovey about me and guitar hero.
Here is the discussion for the book club.
Please feel free to join in on any of the questions and add your opinion.
Warning: spoilers below.
Do you agree with Henry's need to keep the future a secret?
How does Clare cope with the knowledge that at a young age she knows that Henry is the man she will eventually marry?
The book is told from both Henry's and Clare's side. Do you think it helped you understand both sides of how they felt more?
How do you think them trying to have a child affected their relationship?
Did you like the idea that the child had the same ability to time traveler like her father Henry?
How did you feel about the ending of this book?
And if you saw the movie how did you like the book from the movie and movie from the book?
Friday, August 28, 2009
here are just 28 reasons why I love and adore you.
1. I love your kind heart
2. I love that you are a clean freak.
3. I love that you are very patient
4. I love that family comes first in your eyes.
5. I love that your a dreamer and your living your dream.
6. I love that you pray with me and for me all the time.
7. I love that you got me kittens.
8. I love that you never go a day without saying you love me.
9. I love that you give me forehead kisses.
10. I love that you are humble.
11. I love that you are 28 and still NEVER had a drop of alcohol (not even with all the peer pressure there is on the road)
12. I love how you always remember the little things I say.
13. I love your cuddling.
14. I love that you watch old movies, and listen to the oldies with me.
15. I love that you are honest (maybe sometimes to honest but that's OK)
16. I love that you take the time to talk to my mom and dad
17. I love how when I am sick you always take care of me.
18. I love how you NEVER look at other women, it's like you never even notice there in the room.
19. I love that you let me fall asleep with the t.v. on and then you turn it off once I'm dreaming.
20. I love how you light up when watching the big time guitar session players.
21. I love that you let me decorate the house my way.
22. I love that when you want to try something new you always want to include me in it.
23. I love that after all this time you can still make my heart sink.
24. I love how I can still get butterflies in my stomach when I know you getting ready to walk in the door after a long tour.
25. I love that you hold my hand in the car.
26. I love that you noticed what color my eyes were the first few seconds you met me and you can still tell me what color shirt I was wearing and where I was standing and who I was talking to... you really did notice me out of all those girls.
27. I love that we still can't get enough of each other.
28. I love you... just that simple!
Hope your birthday is a wonderful one
and I can't wait to have you home!
Plus, if you didn't notice the kittens are already starting to open your gifts... they are getting tired of waiting... sorry, they are a little less patient with you being gone this long.
Thursday, August 27, 2009
I seem to have found my life with you. I can see everything that lays ahead and I am so excited to share it with you.
When I was younger I use to dream about growing up to be an adult, playing house with a husband, and sharing my everyday life with that someone special but now I don't have to dream anymore. I found my future, my life to be.
I see the day when I take your last name, how proud I will be to introduce myself as your wife. I see the day when we have our first argument as husband and wife and learning to take the good with the bad... but no worries our goods ALWAYS override our bads. I see the day we find that dream home we keep talking about the one with your dream studio, and my huge kitchen. I know we will find it. As you always say "we just need to be patient and it will happen'. I see the day when we celebrate our first Christmas there and how fun it will be to decorate our very own Christmas tree. How special it will be to have our two families come together and stay with us as we all sit around the dinning room table laughing about life after eating a meal that I hope I cooked and turned out well (thank goodness you let me practice cooking with you... and you always eat it, even seconds)I can see the day we find out we are having a baby and how excited and nervous we will be. As we pray and hope that we are good parents and don't screw up. I see that day we are driving back from the hospital with me in the back seat and you driving our new baby home. I see the nights we will spend awake trying to calm the baby down and mornings we will both try to sneak in a few extra hours rest. I see the day you will start to teach our child to play guitar and how much joy it will bring you to share your passion with your baby. I can even see me (and our child) still crying and missing you like crazy every time you leave for tour .... I know that will never change no matter how many times you leave it will never be something we get over. I see the day our child learns to drive, has a first date (hopefully if we have a girl it won't be with a musician... because I can't see you taking that too well), graduates from high school then collage and us asking ourselves where time went and how it goes by so fast, at least that's what they say. I see us learning to adjust to having the house to ourselves and learning about each other all over again. I see grand babies, and lots of spoiling... on your end (you think you wont spoil but I know you better then you know yourself sometimes). I see us celebrating our 50's years together and reminiscing about how wonderful our life is and was and how we never went a day without loving each other.
How beautiful our life will be... I can really see it all... all with you.
the women you will grow old with... your princess.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
...and when we're gone there'll be no tears to cry only memories of our lives. They'll remember, remember a love like that.
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Monday, August 24, 2009
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Hey, everyone! Hope you all are having a wonderful weekend so far. What do you have planned? Me and the Kitty's are going to be doing some cleaning since they seem to think the litter box is a toy box!
Here, are some videos of guitar hero from this past week. Hope you enjoy!
Friday, August 21, 2009
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Monday, August 17, 2009
have you ever heard the line from the movie miss pettigrew lives for a day that goes "but he smiled at me whenever he saw me, and we could build a life on that" ?? i have this same thought every single day. my Vince makes me feel this way. we've been together for almost 4 years (married for 3 of those 4) and every day he manages to make me weak in my knees with one simple look. one simple smile. and then there are butterflies and music and fireworks and summer breezes and dancing. he smiles at me, with his big blue eyes, and i know he loves me.
he smiles at me all the time. when I'm trying to be funny. when I'm angry. when I'm sleepy. and its that smile that seems to make my life complete and okay. no matter what I'm going through, that smile reassures me that everything will be alright. that life is good. and love is real. every time he does see me, he smiles at me... and we are building on our life on that.
Stay tuned... I hope to post more through out the week.
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Also, I hope you all are having a lovely weekend. What are your plans? Me and guitar hero are going to see the time travelers wife tomorrow after I pick him up from the airport. I am so excited to have him home for a few days... it's been a good month since we have had a real day off together.
Friday, August 14, 2009
as your gypsy soul carries you and your guitar all over this country
it always lonely when you are gone
but I know in my heart it wont be long before your home
no matter how many arena's you play in
no matter how many fans cheer your name
no matter how many spotlights you stand in
your favorite stage to stand on is the one next to me in our home
OK, I know I post a lot about guitar hero and me being in love which most of you seem to enjoy. But I really want to know how you all feel about love in your own words. I will post who's ever touches me the most tomorrow on my blog. E-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org for you entries and be sure to link your blog so I can give you credit.
Also, It does not have to be about a boyfriend or husband. Love can be put in so many ways. So have fun with it.
(image found here)
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Today, when I was a work we found this little guy (he is a praying mantis)
My boss Megan (check out her blog here... she is new to the blog world and I am so excited to have her on here) decided to name him Fred... after Fred Astaire because he is such an amazing dancer... Obviously!
He is our new pet at work... and I love him very much!
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Friday, August 7, 2009
Thursday, August 6, 2009
I am thankful to make new friends.
I am thankful to go shopping and buy a new dress today
I am thankful that I have family coming in this weekend
I am thankful it's sunny outside
I am thankful to wake up and see a sweet text from guitar hero
I am thankful for the new fall scents that stores are selling
I am thankful that guitar hero will be returning home to me soon
I am thankful to be reading such a good book
I am thankful for love
I am thankful I have no real worries in my life right now
I am thankful to have such sweet and amazing readers everyday... I can not begin to tell you how thankful I am to see your comments. I love each and every one of you and your blogs too!
What are you thankful for today my friends?
(Image found here)
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
I said "I don't feel good without you here all a sudden, it doesn't feel like home. my life has become foreign and i feel like i belong no where."
He said "you belong with me."
that's all i needed to hear and i was home again.
our time is always short... I can't help but feel we have been cheated. How can two people love each other so much and not have a life that allows them to be together?
but my heart still beats for yours, my breath still breaths for you, my hands still always reach for yours, my eyes still only look for you.
I am still here, I'm still waiting right where you left me. I will still be here when you return. I will always be here because we belong together. You belong with me and I belong with you.
I hope I continue to always get butterflies in my stomach when you return home to me.
I hope you still like giving me forehead kisses when you want to show you care.
I hope that you still try to hold me when I am mad and pull away (eventually, I always hold back)
I hope my heart always sinks when you kiss me.
I hope you never stop lighting up when you talk about me and I never stop smiling when I think of you.
I hope we never get tired of texting each other all the time and asking how each day is going.
I hope we both continue going out with each other for the small things. Like grocery shopping, or getting the oil changed in the cars.
I hope we both always feel like there is a piece of us missing when we apart.
Monday, August 3, 2009
I seriously don't think I have been this excited to see a movie in a long time. It looks so amazing and yet sadly kind of reminds me of my own life. It's hard thinking the man I love spends more time being gone then with me. This preview really hit a soft spot tonight. I miss guitar hero so much and I'm eagerly awaiting his return. I think I will read a few more chapters of this book tonight.
Also, does anyone know the song in the preview of this movie?